10 PSYCHOLOGICAL RECOMMENDATIONS TO BE LIKED BY OTHERS

  1. Smile. Smiling creates a positive perception, and people who smile are more likable than those who are serious or frowning.
  2. Say hello and say hello back. This form of communication is the first brick on which to build, then real communication and…sympathy. So feel free to greet/respond to the greeting and possibly introduce yourself and even ask a polite, even complimentary question.
  3. Be honest and open. When a person talks about themselves (family, hobbies, weekend plans, movies, books, music or favorite sports, etc.) it forces the other person to open up and trust them. Building trust is essential in valuing a person positively.
  4. Listen actively. Be present in the communication, even if the other person talks more. Approve, make points, contradict if necessary, depending on the situation. In this way, the other person will find you a real partner.
  5. Don’t monopolize the discussion, no matter how much you have to say. Try to maintain a balance between what you say and what you listen to. Give your interlocutor a chance to put forward their ideas. Some may even be valuable.
  6. Avoid direct and violent criticism, even if you are right. Most people realise when they are wrong. Just let them know that you know what they’re talking about and that you expect it not to happen again in the future. In other words, be diplomatic.
  7. Be generous. Sometimes it’s necessary to show your generosity and philanthropic spirit. People need kindness, mercy, forgiveness, and understanding. Use generosity with discernment and don’t abuse it.
  8. Look people in the eye. This approach establishes a direct relationship between interlocutors and shows interest in each other.
  9. Be as adaptable as possible. That is, don’t be ostentatious in behavior, dress and language. Keep the situation in mind and behave accordingly.
  10. Be yourself. When a person tries to appear to be something other than they are, they may succeed, for a short time, sometimes at great cost, but eventually they will become what they really are. Let people get to know you as you are, obviously the best version of yourself. This will also help you to adapt to situations more easily and transform yourself, slowly, into a more likable person to others.